if a guy is nice to you and rapes you, or somehow it has slipped his mind that he has raped you, or whatever, it's not 'grey area rape.' no matter how nice he is about assaulting you, it's still rape. it's like friendly fire: friendly or not, YOU'RE STILL SHOT AND KILLED.
i mean, let's call it 'friendly rape' if we have to, but what the fuck? grey area?